Attention Families:I was looking this morning at a Montessori School's blog (http://riverstonemontessori.blogspot.com/) and learned one critical thing that would have helped me years ago with my son:
Say at least 9 POSITIVE comments for every negative.
How about:
- Great job taking out the trash.
- You combed your hair very nicely today.
- Thank you for such a sweet smile.
Have to remember that adding a "but" at the end of the positive actually negates the comment. Don't say "thanks for taking out the trash, but you dragged it." We've been "taught" that it's easier to say negatives things than to say positive, but let's all try it.
Experiment: for one day, or even one hour, say only positive comments. Nothing negative. Can you do it? Will you do it?
My boy is 12 years old this week. I hope it's not too late.
Vee-Mama
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